The Fear of Expectations

Expectations of doing well can create as much fear and anxiety as doing poorly. Read more...

My Four Fathers

As father's day approaches, I have been thinking about the fatherly influences I have had in my life? And, what does it really mean to be a father? Read more...

Communicating with Foster Children

Creating opportunities to communicate with a child in foster care is critical. Read more...

Christmas in Foster Care

As we approach the upcoming holidays, I am reminded that this time of the year can be especially difficult for children in foster care. Read more...

Do I Belong Here? Or is This Just Another Stop For Me?

Children in foster care have a difficult time feeling as if they belong. For the next few weeks, I will be exploring the ways that you can help a child feel like they belong, while opening the doors to more meaningful communication. Read more...

Everyone Lies; Why Should I Believe You?

Week two in the series; How to help a child feel as if they belong. Read more...

Child Leaves Foster Care with Nothing

When children are placed in foster care, they often come with only the clothes on their back. Sometimes, they may have a trash bag or two with them, but imagine, if you can, going into a situation with none of the things that give you comfort or that have a special meaning to you. When working with children, we have a responsibility to help them feel as if they belong. Let's not make the mistake of having them leave foster care with nothing. This week, I share two simple ways that you can help a child feel valued and as if they belong. Read more...

Why Can't I Just Be Me!

Our identities are created from birth and are developed through our interactions with our primary caretakers - usually our parent(s) and extended family. Yet, if you are a child that is placed into foster care, you may find that there was a break in the formation of your identity. Defining "who" you are and "how" you fit into the world becomes harder the longer you remain in foster care. Read more...